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post #1 of 97
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I can say that because I am Korean!! So I went to Koreatown with Mom and went shopping at this nice mall. All the stores are Korean. Both of my parents are Korean and I was born in Korea but I don't speak it fluently and because of that, I'm suddenly the stupid Korean girl who should have learned to speak her own language!! ARGH I asked this lady in one of the stores about a shirt and I asked her in english because I didn't know how to translate it. Well, she looks at my mom and says in Korean, "Doesn't she speak Korean"? She didn't even answer my question. I was so mad. My mom told me to be quiet. Why?!

post #2 of 97
Yeah, I grew up in the OC (where there are more vietnamese than the country of vietnam, I think) and was told all the time how I spoke vietnamese so poorly. I would be so embarassed to even try talking because they would just make fun of me. When I actually went to Vietnam a couple years ago, everyone there was so impressed that I would even try, and were so positive about it that I loved trying to speak it.

I've stated in another thread that non-American born Asians tend to be pretty ethnocentric and hold deep ties to their culture and language. If you forget your native tongue, they kinda look at it as you selling out.
post #3 of 97
Yeah, they totally suck.
post #4 of 97
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Here is my thought on this. You're living in Los Angeles in Koreatown. It's not Korea!!! My parents hold their customs and cultures close by and have instilled this into our brains since we were young, but they were never like that. Even my mom attended a course at the local college to learn how to understand english and to speak it better simply because she had to in order to get by!! I do have to say that my mom has korean friends who do think they are better than the other koreans. I hate it! And they are the ones who are the religious church people (but they talk about everyone!)
post #5 of 97
Hmmm sounds like... I don't know the korean term, but the japanese one is "Obahan". Those ladies who gossip non stop, and can't help but gloat about their husbands/children.
post #6 of 97
i don't know anything about Koreans in general. THe one thing i do know though is that one of my dearest friends in Korean and she is honestly the nicest & sweetest person i know...and boy can she cook
post #7 of 97
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Originally Posted by Tsukasa View Post
Hmmm sounds like... I don't know the korean term, but the japanese one is "Obahan". Those ladies who gossip non stop, and can't help but gloat about their husbands/children.

Funny that you say that!! This is my mom's friends when they are with her, "Oh! You have such a good daughter, very smart and pretty and respectful! You are so lucky!" This is my mom's friends when they are not with her, "Oh! She is so lucky to have such a good daughter, very smart and pretty and respectful..............but she is 37 years old and has no children, what is wrong with her...................and can you believe she has been married twice?!"
post #8 of 97
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Originally Posted by shoesandbags1969 View Post
Funny that you say that!! This is my mom's friends when they are with her, "Oh! You have such a good daughter, very smart and pretty and respectful! You are so lucky!" This is my mom's friends when they are not with her, "Oh! She is so lucky to have such a good daughter, very smart and pretty and respectful..............but she is 37 years old and has no children, what is wrong with her...................and can you believe she has been married twice?!"
Yeah totally like that. Then they will go on about how well their children are doing, or how successful their husband is.
post #9 of 97
haha how about when ppl say "Oh your daughter is so pretty and does so well in school"

and then your mom blushes and says "Oh but shes so dirty! you should see her room!"
post #10 of 97
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haha how about when ppl say "Oh your daughter is so pretty and does so well in school"

and then your mom blushes and says "Oh but shes so dirty! you should see her room!"
HAHAHAHA. My mom does that!!!
post #11 of 97
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Originally Posted by SevenKid0505 View Post
Yeah, they totally suck.
i was going to post this, but ive really been trying hard to be nice.
post #12 of 97
^^^ you need to find better role models then

(seriously...you're on a roll lately...don't mess it up)
post #13 of 97
I had a korean boyfriend many years ago, (I'm married 20years now) We probably would have married, but his mother was horrified by me! She loved my long blonde hair and green eyes, but she did NOT want me marrying her son, they were straight from korea, but he spoke english ok, she not too much... Anyway I made pasta w/ meatballs per his request! His mother came in halfway through dinner and took his plate and started yelling something, my boyfriend looked straight at me and translated;'don't eat anything she cooks, it'll make you sick!' His mom realized what he had done and she was soooo embarassed. He stood up to her many times, but in the end, she won
I think this happens alot with truly mixed cultures... I still wonder what might have happened, he was one of the loves of my life!
post #14 of 97
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You never know. My mom was never like that. I have never had a korean boyfriend before and she didn't care. Just as long as I was happy!! Are you kidding me? You made spaghetti with meat balls and she thought that would kill him! You should see what korean people eat!
post #15 of 97
Well, I'll eat as much kimchi as you'll let me! But other than that, as far as 'asian' food goes, I like Vietnamese better.
I think she may have been pissed off that her daughter married a guy she didn't like... I certainly don't hold her behaviour against any other Koreans though. My grandparents were russian and my grandma had this thing about 'gypsies' which was anybody who had pierced ears! My poor mom didn't get her ears pierced until she was in her 40's! OC stood for 'old country' to her!LOL.
BTW, I was born in Nipomo, grew up around there, I notice you're from SLO. It's still a nice town !
post #16 of 97
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BTW, I was born in Nipomo, grew up around there, I notice you're from SLO. It's still a nice town ![/quote]

Have you been back to Nipomo recently? It has really, really grown. My husband is a realtor in Nipomo. Small world!!
post #17 of 97
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Originally Posted by shoesandbags1969 View Post
BTW, I was born in Nipomo, grew up around there, I notice you're from SLO. It's still a nice town !


Have you been back to Nipomo recently? It has really, really grown. My husband is a realtor in Nipomo. Small world!![/quote]

Well, I was just through there over Christmas, taking my mom to TJ's in ArroyoGrande! Yes it has grown, but when I was born in 1959, yes 1959, we lived in those houses behind the Santa Maria Speedway, ther e were six teeny model homes up there! They never built any more and my parents paid $1200 for one of those houses! I raced motorcycles at the Speedway too! I mostly grew up near Lompoc, though.
post #18 of 97
I thought Viet people are the only one always getting on their children about preserving their culture. I'm all for it but my parents take it to the extreme sometimes. They expect me to know all the customs and traditions and once I show a sign of ignorance, they always say something to the line of "oh, you've forgotten your roots." I wish they would do the opposite and learn more about American cultures. It's hard for my brother and I to communite with them sometimes because we always have to simplify things for each other. Ironically my dad always go on about how rude viet people are haha. Especially getting out of the parking lot after Church. And he always say "those Viet kids are no good, all they care about is clubbing and racing cars."
post #19 of 97
My mom does that all the time, just tells me to shut up! (We're Korean, too). Hahaha I totally feel you! I don't even try anymore.
post #20 of 97
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i was going to post this, but ive really been trying hard to be nice.
You are WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY too cool!
post #21 of 97
Nobody mentioned the positive side of your bad shopping experience. You have motivation (if you want to call it that) to improve your Korean. I wish there was a mean Italian lady somewhere around here to make fun of my daughter when she makes a mistake. Just cause I want her to really really be fluent. Maybe you don't understand how important that it for us (the parents). So, screw that lady, but keep up with the language to make your parents happy.
post #22 of 97
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Originally Posted by SevenKid0505 View Post
Yeah, they totally suck.
You know who really suck? People who are rude for no reason most of the time and then try to act better than other people all of the time...those people really are the ones who SUCK BAD.

^^ And yes, I was directing this at you, the person I'm quoting.


BTW, my best friend is Korean/French and is one of the very best people I have known. She is beyond sweet, amazingly gorgeous and I'm so lucky I know her!
post #23 of 97
I must be really old fashion or something, but I feel that it is very important for everyone to preserve their heritage. That is not to say to reject the American culture and just focus on your own, but why can't you do both? I get extremely offended when I see a Chinese who can't understand a single word of Chinese... and that happens quite often. My parents never forced me to adhere to the Chinese culture - I chose to do it on my own. Of course, some times I feel that there are certain annoying things that only Chinese would do, and I may be stereotyped of the same thing. I think as long as we keep an open mind to other cultures while not forgetting our own is the best way.
post #24 of 97
HA.. I tell them to learn English, cause we live in America. LOL I'm Korean too and cant speak much Korean. And when someone tells me I'm Korean and I should be able to speak Korean, I seriously tell them, no I'm American, and we live in the US so learn to speak English. lol Its true though..... But my mom doesnt make me learn about my culture and she isnt "old fashion".. most of the time...
post #25 of 97
I also must say something, its true I dont know much about my culture, but you cant change who you are. I hate how people say bad stuff about their culture when its not true. There are people from other ethnicities that are rude or racists. So why point out and make a big deal of your own country, it makes you look bad and other people who are innocent look bad.

shoesandbags1969 - I'm not totally directing this to you, just in general...
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