Originally Posted by ttramell
I sent pic that I took awhile ago of my collection to a news lady and my stomach is sick cause I am a monster and I am way in over my head
I dont need all these jeans but cant let go
Addiction to shopping is such a sensitive issue and I think you are very brave to talk about it ttramell. The first step is admitting there is a problem and when you feel sick and ashamed instead of happy and proud..well, that´s just not healthy.
I think it´s a biological thing that women LOVES to shop. We love to nest, to collect and own things. It´s very hard to draw the line were a persons shopping habits are too extreme but I think when your loved ones starts to complain, it´s a clear cut sign that something is really wrong and when you start to feel sick and ashamed over the things you own..
I think you do have a problem, ttramell and I don´t think that this obsession has anything to do with jeans really, it just happend to be "this thing" you get kicks from. Some people collects stamps, some collects cars (like Jay Leno) and some people (like Angelina Jolie) gets their kicks from adopting children and "saving" them from a poverty (this is REALLY disturbing IMO
). All these obsessions are very different but the people behind them are really much alike. They are all trying to fill that hole of emptiness, depression, anxiety, stress or some other negative feeling with these different things.
If I were you, I would seek professional help. This is a serious addiction, just like alcohol or drugs and shouldn´t be neglected. If you feel that you have the will power to fix this addiction by yourself, you should make up your mind about how many jeans that are reasonable to own. I´m thinking like 10 pairs tops. If you decide never to own more than 10 pairs, then you can buy and sell as much as you want, just as long as you only got 10 pairs in the closet and not 11 or 12...just 10.
If you for example make 10 your magic number, you don´t have to feel bad or ashamed about your passion and love for jeans and I really think you will be able to wear them and not just "own" them.
I felt that I had too many jeans at one point and decided that 10 pairs are enough and whenever I get more than 10, I sell. This makes me feel REALLY GOOD AND IN CONTROL
and I never hear anything negative from my boyfriend anymore
Getting addicted to something is really easy..admitting there is a problem is very hard but doing something about is the hardest!
I found this about shopping addictions and it´s very interesting IMO: Women and Money | Financial advice | Credit Cards | Loans | Mortgages - MSN Money UK - Seven signs youâ€™re addicted to shopping