Originally Posted by themeowmixcat
Originally Posted by jetsetter
i agree with meowmixcat's thoughts the most. very logical and well written. and probly the most realistic.
i am wondering if the same people who try so hard not to immediately "judge" others are capable of interpreting first impressions. cos well, if you think about it, it's based off of the same principle. a first impression is really nothing more than a toned down form of judging.
i would also venture to say that most of the people who get accused of "judging" are probly better at picking up first impressions than those who pride themselves on getting to know the person first which.. is of course the moral (?) thing to do but how many of us truly take the time and get to know people that we perceive to be far detached from our own personal style?
Ya, when people say they don't judge, it's either an evasion or an admission of stupidity - that's just not how the human mind works.
Humans differentiate and make distinctions between different things. That's how we understand the world. Maybe we "shouldn't" (and says who?) make jugments of people based on outward appearances, but the reality is that we do.
Sometimes impressions are incorrect, and maybe that's too bad but so what, you revise your evaluation of whatever person and move on. But generally, generalizations (assuming they are not arbitrary and or taught by other people) are based on past experience.
If I've met 100 people who dress like ghetto gangsters and they all act in a certain way and listen to rap music (or whatever i find to be common to all people i meet who share a certain characteristic), i have every reason to believe that the next person dressed like a homie g will be the same.
Do you not like people who listen to rap music? Also how exaclty is it that people, dress gangsta?
As is the topic of this thread you shouldn't judge people by their looks.
A person who dresses like "Ghetto Gangsters" could be the nicest person you'd ever meet. But you probably wouldn't get the cance to meet them because you'd probably be stuck in the thought that they'd try to rob you, or whatever the stereotype is.
I know a few people who wear seven jeans, and listen to rap.
Have you ever interacted with someone who listens to 'gangsta rap'? All the people I know listen to rap (among other music), but none of them are gangsters. They were clothing by people who make rap music. I don't know what you consider to be 'Gangster' music. But these people listen to Jay-z, wear RocaWear, listen to 50 cent/G-unit, wear G-unit. They wear Phat Farm and Ecko. And they wear their jeans baggy as hell. Shirts that come down to their knees (Which I find to be tacky), but None of them are gangsters.
And that's the problem with some people. They see someone and instantly make an assumption about them. I wouldn't assume someone was a gangster by the way they dress.
I try not to judge people by the way they dress. I don't look at someone who wears clothes from Walmart/Target/K-mart, and think 'Oh my god this person is so poor, they're wearing jeans that cost less than $20.00'. I have friends who go to places like the mall, wearing sweat pants, or pajama pants. While i think that's tacky, they're still my friends, and I wouldn't be embarassed to walk around with them.
So all I'm trying to say is don't judge someone based on what they wear, or other physical appearences. .