Originally Posted by SouthernBellefromSC
Ross well said..
if I could add but one to your big 3 its how they treat me and others.. Respect.. if someone doesnt treat others with the respect they deserve .. well nothing is uglier then that.
In an ideal world, yes...but it's my experience that that's of secondary importance if you have the Big 3.
The reason it's not as important is that many women (and men) don't respect themselves...so they can't command/demand respect from their partners. Hence the phenomenon that Plastic-Alligator pointed out of 'nice' people ending up with (and staying with, beyond any reasonable measure) jerks.
It sucks, but it is a game and a rat race...and you need to make yourself into the most demanded, desirable commodity you can. That sometimes means treating people 'badly' because you need to project the attitude of "I can do better any time I want, so you'd better get with the program if you want to keep me around."
I was discussing this with an HF member the other night...and they shared my assessment that women really like men who are "in demand." Look up the phrase "social proofing," it makes a lot of sense.