Originally Posted by twistedheart
i'm doubting how much you actually like this girl, and truly questioning why she should even like you in the first place. the issue is how well you two work together in a relationship, not the physical appearance. i really truly hope you didn't mean what this post implies, because i've actually been told that i was "visually unappealing" since i was larger than the guy i was seeing. i may be bigger, both physically and emotionally...since i got over him and realized someone who actually bases anything worth debating on WEIGHT isn't worth a second thought.
the fact that people still consider this makes me sad
Sometimes the weight/health issue can relate to how well you work together though. I understand where you're coming from... but sometimes it isn't just the visual appeal that creates the barrier. I went away in October for Three months, I came back and my BF had put on about 35-40 pounds. from about 230-235 to 270. He stopped working out, he ate burger king for breakfast, lunch, dinner and evening snack. I love him, and he is not unappealing to me because he is fat but his weight is an issue for me. My father was very overweight growing up, if I did anything wrong my mother would say youre going to give him a heart attack and you'll have to live with it. I Begged him for 15 years to lose it, I poured my heart out to him and it took him 3 months when he finally did it last year. it could have saved him sooo much health problems. Taking care of yourself is important. I can't handle the thought of losing someone because they were too stubborn to listen, to lazy, too oblivious. Like I said I love my BF, I can't imagine being without him, but he's had a BP of 160/90 since he ws 16. he's overweight, out of shape, unhealthy. I've told him how much it hurt me that my dad didn't care enough to change, and I cannot and will not go through it with him too.
In terms of this post though, no I dont' think the girl would care if you are smaller. It's just appearances, what I mean in weight becoming an issue is that it can run deeper. Like you said, it's something you are definately aware of, but if you can see past it, why couldn't she?