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post #51 of 140
Maybe give her a few days to get out. Its not like you have to bullshit her about anything. She is a bum and a freeloader. That is reason enough.
post #52 of 140
one question :

is she good looking ?
post #53 of 140
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by sultrysiren View Post
Maybe give her a few days to get out. Its not like you have to bullshit her about anything. She is a bum and a freeloader. That is reason enough.
Most I could give her is till Sunday night because I would have to go back to work monday
post #54 of 140
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Originally Posted by BEFORE_DISHONOR View Post
Most I could give her is till Sunday night because I would have to go back to work monday
At least its a little time.
post #55 of 140
Thread Starter 
So I should sit her down tomorrow and politely ask her to have her stuff out by Sunday, maybe I could just say another friend needs to stay with us and she needs to get out and go stay with her boyfriend? And If shit comes to shit just tell her I found it and ask her to get out that night, meanwhile having a new set of door locks ready to go foor when shes out. The only thing is the girls a major clepto and I don't want my shit to go missing so allowing her to stay longer then a day is pushing it, and monitoring her packing her shit is going to give her some kind of heads up anyway that its not just nothing that she getting kicked out for???
post #56 of 140
Please, reason it out via pm !

Thx

CLOSED !
post #57 of 140
Just try and be honest if you can. Making BS excuses will not help her any. If she has no money and is stealing shit to buy drugs she has a problem so you better change those locks.
post #58 of 140
Thread Starter 
yea, agreed
post #59 of 140
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Originally Posted by BEFORE_DISHONOR View Post
What the fuck should I do? She doesn't pay any rent, shes been staying with us for three months just to take care of the dogs while we are at work, we feed her, take care of her etc. I got suspiciousness because shes been fucking up and lying allot lately so I went outside to smoke a cigg and she was in the bathroom and i heard that "sniff sniff" noise really loud, so when she left I searched her purse I found like 20 mini baggies with white stuff in them? What the hell do i do, How am I going to kick her out, I have work tomorrow and shes not even home?I don't want her to revenge on me or plant drugs in my house????????????
I didn't read the whole thread but I would either kick her ass out of my house or mind my own business. Coke isn't really that big of a deal.
post #60 of 140
Thread Starter 
Just because its mainstream like pot doesn't mean its not a big deal
post #61 of 140
Ugh, I want to talk more about this but I need to go to sleep.

I just read the thread, I agree 100% with Skidder.
post #62 of 140
When you invited her to stay with you, did you specify a time period? Three months is a long time - tell her that you've enjoyed her stay but that you and your BF would like to have the place back to yourselves. How does the BF feel about her? If he feels the same as you, then the two of you can present a united front - be nice, but firm.

It would be reasonable to give her a week or so to find a new place, get her stuff together and move out. Do you think she's been stealing from you? If so, then either make sure you have a full account/evidence of everything in your place (take pictures, etc) or go with your plan of asking her to move out by Sunday if you don't want to leave her alone in your place.

I wouldn't mention the coke. IMO, I don't think you should have gone through her purse unless you thought she was stealing from you to support her habit.
post #63 of 140
What're you waiting for, do a line!

edit: Nevermind, I don't think you would wanna ruin your new nose.
post #64 of 140
do you really need a message board for life advice?
post #65 of 140
If you know someone's a klepto, and you can't even tell them to get out for fear that they'll steal your things, why have them living with you in the first place?

Aaaanyway... you really should not have gone through her purse... if you thought she was stealing things from you, you should have just confronted her about it, without completely violating her privacy.

Just be honest, own up to what you did and what you found, and tell her to get out if you don't feel comfortable with it in your house.

ON EDIT: oh, and posting pics of her purse on the internet? that's just mean... I'd be pissed if I were her.
post #66 of 140
I just found coke in my roommates purse.
What the fuck should I do? She doesn't pay any rent, shes been staying with us for three months just to take care of the dogs while we are at work, we feed her, take care of her etc. I got suspiciousness because shes been fucking up and lying allot lately so I went outside to smoke a cigg and she was in the bathroom and i heard that "gulp gulp" noise really loud, so when she left I searched her purse I found like 355ml in a can? What the hell do i do, How am I going to kick her out, I have work tomorrow and shes not even home?I don't want her to revenge on me or plant drugs in my house????????????

post #67 of 140
well if you think she's a klepto just re-arrange any valuable shit in such a manner where it'd be obvious she messed around with it as she was leaving. also just hide anything valuable. its not like shes going to steal the couch, and if you find that the Simpsosn Movie is missing after she leaves its not a big deal. now are you kicking her out based on the fact that you found coke? or do you feel that the money shes spending on coke could be used to pay the rent? i probly wouldve kicked her out the minute i found out she was a klepto as opposed to finding a few mostly empty bags of coke and using that as the final straw. anyway she would know somethings up if you didnt tell her about the coke and just 'all the sudden' wanted her out. i would definitely bring up the coke unless you think she'd be a bitch about you going through her purse.

edit: lolz at Tsukasa. that bitch should have been drinking Pepsi.
post #68 of 140
That doesn't look like a lot of coke, and trust me, as a person who's done coke here and there I think there are worse problems.

Just have a sit down chat with her if you're that upset over it, and then tell her to move out. But honestly it's just coke, now if she was doing heroin that's a different story. But coke is such a college/club/rich guys drug and it's not even that amazing and it totally gives you the shits the next morning because a lot of coke is cut with laxatives. I don't know what I'm saying because I've had 10+ shots and I'm home now after nearly confessing my love to my best straight guy friend. But I wish I had coke right now, i would totally do a line.
post #69 of 140
lol, did she put 1 line per baggie?!?!?

Tell her she should try magic mushrooms instead of the white stuff.
post #70 of 140
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Originally Posted by BEFORE_DISHONOR View Post
I got suspiciousness because shes been fucking up and lying allot lately so I went outside to smoke a cigg and she was in the bathroom and i heard that "sniff sniff" noise really loud, so when she left I searched her purse...

Sorry but I try to hang out with people with morals that don't bring that shit into my home.
Not trying to play devil's advocate here, BUT... just because cigarette's are legal doesn't make them any less of a drug (nicotine!) than cocaine.
post #71 of 140
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Originally Posted by sultrysiren View Post
Is 20 baggies a lot? Maybe she is selling it. At least put her out on her ass for not paying any bills. Its real simple, just tell her to get out.
Depends on the size of the baggies. We talking 2CM square or ziplock freezer bags...

Anyways, I can't say I'm entirely sure why you let someone live with you without paying rent or for the food they eat, unless you're very wealthy or she's your cousin or something. That's separate from the drug issue though...

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Originally Posted by jskidder
i really think the op is completely overreacting. its just a little coke...
If the chick were paying her rent and anotherwise being an upstanding roomate I would tend to agree. It's not the OP's business what she (the roomate) chooses to do if she is stable, pays rent/bills, isn't dangerous to anyone, getting along with you and other roomates, etc. My problem is really with the behavior of not paying rent, and probably spending that money on drugs, stealing, etc...

I've been in this situation. I had an ancillary college friend who became my roommate after my original one moved to CA for grad school. While he was employed, his drug use didnt really bother me - he's a fun, smart guy, with fun friends and while he had a job and money he paid his bills and his rent and was generally cool to live with. The worst I could say for him is he stayed up late and occasionally ate my food without asking. Regular kind of roomate stuff.

Things changed when he got laid off. He paid rent (barely) but nothing for bills or food. He also stole money out of my wallet a couple of times while I slept and took cabs from brooklyn to the upper west side at 4am to buy coke. When I finally (nicely) kicked him out, I found makeshift freebasing setups in his trash can after he left.

I know your situation is hard, but quite frankly your problem is not with her drug use IMO, but with her inability to pay her share of the house's expenses and stealing/lying.

Also, for the record, I've done coke like 3 times (years and years ago) and it's by far the most money you can pay for the shittiest, most pointless-feeling and short-lasting drug ever. I will never understand why anyone likes it - all that happened to me is I felt hyper for about 15 minutes. Big whoop. And everyone else was claiming how good it was. <shrug>
post #72 of 140
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Originally Posted by SevenKid0505 View Post
What gave you the right to look inside of her purse in the first place? Shouldn't you keep your nose out of other people's business?

I can't wait until the troupe of forum idiots wages an anonymous negative assault against this post without providing any logic behind their actions.
Actually I agree with you for once. It's totally not her business to go poking around in the belongings of others. Violates her privacy.
post #73 of 140
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Originally Posted by Marcano View Post
Not trying to play devil's advocate here, BUT... just because cigarette's are legal doesn't make them any less of a drug (nicotine!) than cocaine.
Actually you're correct. Also 80% of tobacco users are dependent whereas cocaine is not a physically addictive substance.
post #74 of 140
You have enough reason to kick her out even without ever catching her with drugs.

Kinda wierd with the 20 bags though?? Looks like she's collecting them. I don't think a little coke is a big deal. Alot of people that have never done it assume your body will numb for hours and you'll start hooking on the corner next week. The fact that she has a shady personality is probably who she is with or without drugs.
post #75 of 140
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Originally Posted by BEFORE_DISHONOR View Post
But wouldn't it be a huge shock to her too be like yea sorry get out by tonight? I don't want to end up like her last roommate with her stealing my credit card and shit

then don't leave your purse laying around like she did.

give her some time to move out also. that wasn't a huge amount of coke you found either so i wouldn't be so worried either.

as for your fingerprints on it, it's not like it was an amount seen on scarface so i doubt you should worry about that either.

i also don't think it was right to go through her purse. even if you suspected something that was not the right thing to do.


btw..seven..i actually +1 you on your post.
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