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post #126 of 140
1/11/08 at 6:05pm
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Originally Posted by arriarri View Post
^^^ sorry. I just hate when people spout info like they know what they're talking about. Back to you.
I'm not acting like I know everything, I just interpreted the law (which is different in different areas) a little differently than you and throw in a nice batch of "niceness" because no one needs to unnecessarily burn bridges... especially when dealing with a cokewhore.

That said, even if her agreement is you live here if you take care of the dogs. Then wouldn't that be an agreement and then she would have to give her notice. I'm sure she did walk the dogs on occassion or have fed them. Kinda like if you're a tenant and you don't pay your rent, he just can't kick you out the next day. The landlord has to go through an eviction process...

But anyways, back to BD -- I still can't get over the fact you looked through her purse. And I wouldn't bring that up at all, because I was thinking about it... if I was a girl and had a purse and I found out you looked through it, I'm sure I'd assume you looked through all my other belongings and well... shit's gonna go down if that happened to me -- if I'm coked out or not.
post #127 of 140
1/11/08 at 6:50pm
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Originally Posted by Malencontreux View Post
I think there's a fine line between a guest and tenant because she's been living with her, and normally "guests" know when they're going to leave. Where as this "guest" essentially moved in because she needed a place to stay.That said, if she has no where else to go and you're not giving her any notice other than her bags on the front porch I'm sure there are some legal repurcussions.

because it's BD's home and this girl isn't a tenant she's a guest
without a legally binding agreement and no rent payments she i merely a guest and since it's BD's home she can do waht she see's fit

all that aside since BD's not comfortable w/ this person coke or not she can do what she pleases and get rid of the girl

at this point the only thing i'd be worried about it her flipping out
post #128 of 140
1/11/08 at 6:52pm
^^also who cares if she looked through the purse... yea it's not morally right but WHAT'S DONE IS DONE and she found coke it's BD's Home and she DOESNT want coke there or this freeloader so I dont know why the looking through the purse thing is still and issue becuase she already did it do u guys want her to go back in time and not do it? lol

as long as she doesnt mention the coke then the girl will never know and what she doesnt know wont hurt her other than the fact that she needs to go live w/ her bf, dad, brother or whoever because she's not welcome

and I think u guys def chose the right thing to just change the locks i mean u dont wanna confront her so i think u and your bf did what you thought was right and i hope it works out for you
post #129 of 140
1/11/08 at 7:13pm
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Originally Posted by BEFORE_DISHONOR View Post
Between everyone that Chris and I assocaite with its well known that we don't hang out with people that do drugs of any sort, once we find out we just stop talking to that person.
Again- don't flame me here- but isn't that kinda hypocritical coming from someone who smokes?
post #130 of 140
1/11/08 at 7:30pm
SNORT IT
post #131 of 140
1/11/08 at 7:46pm
I would give her a week to leave. It's longer than you'd like, yes, but it means you have a chance at keeping her as a friend. I know you are pissed as hell, but it sounds like she's going through some pretty bad stuff right now. Not just that she has a few bags of coke, but that she does nothing all day and you come home to find her passed out. That's not normal. Either her drug problem is more serious than you thought, or she may have another mental illness (in which case it is not that surprising that she would have a substance abuse problem too. They co-occur very frequently).

Try to get past your anger and determination not to associate with people who do drugs. You do not have to condone it but if you just shun her out, you'll lose her forever, and you have to decide if that's what you want.
post #132 of 140
1/11/08 at 8:31pm
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Originally Posted by arriarri View Post
LOL at the legal discussion.

BTW Nova's information is more accurate, no offense Ben. You can't trust everything you read in a self-help pamphlet on the internet, much better to go on the advice of someone who actually does it for a living.
I've been to housing court three times and every time the info I found on that website (which is I believe run by a non-profit tenant advocate group) was helpful and correct.

That said I'm not a lawyer and I will defer to anyone who's an NYC housing lawyer. I do know that things work differently here even compared to NY state. Maybe it's not laws but rather judges but my cousin's a housing lawyer in MA and he's told me on several occasions that in NYC things are much more complicated...
post #133 of 140
1/11/08 at 8:34pm
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Originally Posted by Marcano View Post
Again- don't flame me here- but isn't that kinda hypocritical coming from someone who smokes?
+100
post #134 of 140
1/11/08 at 8:43pm
yea we get it you know everything
post #135 of 140
1/11/08 at 8:44pm
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Originally Posted by blm14 View Post
I've been to housing court three times and every time the info I found on that website (which is I believe run by a non-profit tenant advocate group) was helpful and correct.

That said I'm not a lawyer and I will defer to anyone who's an NYC housing lawyer. I do know that things work differently here even compared to NY state. Maybe it's not laws but rather judges but my cousin's a housing lawyer in MA and he's told me on several occasions that in NYC things are much more complicated...
This is completely irrelevant since BD has stated she owns her house, so please stfu and keep your "knowledge" to yourself.

Thank you and have a nice day.

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post #136 of 140
1/11/08 at 9:08pm
Thread Starter 
update * We told her our friend needs to move in desperately so shes going to have the majority of her stuff out tonight, the down side over heard her talking to another person thats bringing her her "purse" seeing as she has one purse and its here in the house I'm just glad to have her gone without any problems, The girls on the way over to pick up her stuff, im gonna go casually watch her pack her things..
post #137 of 140
1/11/08 at 9:14pm
Thank you for the update!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
post #138 of 140
1/11/08 at 9:26pm
cool congrats!
glad u found a good way to do it!
everybodys happy!
post #139 of 140
1/11/08 at 9:34pm
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Originally Posted by Nova View Post
cool congrats!
glad u found a good way to do it!
everybodys happy!
Yup, time to lock please!!! <3
post #140 of 140
1/11/08 at 10:07pm
Well I'm glad it's taken care of. I found a teeny tiny bag of coke in my house a couple of months ago and totally freaked out about it...not because it's coke, but because it was just laying on the floor and if my daughter had picked it up and eaten it, who knows what could've happened. Weird thing was, the only person who'd been in my house was my best friend from college, who's doing a pretty good job of hiding the fact that she (or her boyfriend, who was with her) has started in with that kind of thing.

To each his own, just keep it the f*ck out of my house.
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