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post #1 of 26
Thread Starter 
I can't wear heels, how do you do it?

The only type that I can wear is the knee-high boots with the wider heel, not pointy or anything.

Am I just trying on cheap heels? Is there something I'm missing here? I think my calves are decently strong, I do work out a few times a week. Is it better if there are straps to hold the ankle? Help me out ladies!

Steve Madden Smoothe (Brown Suede) - Dress
post #2 of 26
I wear heels everyday! I guess I just built up a "tolerance" to them . . . I would just start wearing them for a little while each day. Some "cheaper" heels though will hurt much more than a well-constructed heel IMO
post #3 of 26
How is it that you can't walk? Are you wobbly? Does it hurt? Are your muscles pulling?

I think it is MUCH easier to walk in a wedge heel than a pointy one. That way, your body will get used to being elevated but will not have to deal with balancing all your weight on a 1/4" diameter stick. I would get a pair of wedges and practice alot. When I get a new pair of high heels I sometimes wear them around the house doing chores, cleaning, cooking, just to break them in and get comfortable with them. This will definately help you walk better.

Steve Madden Segment (Black Leather) - Women's
post #4 of 26
I think more expensive doesnt mean anything (in terms of comfort that is). Most of my heels are pretty high end (Prada, Pucci, Ferragamo, etc.) but the higher the heel is - the trickier they are to manuever. Also, wedges can be hard too if the heel is narrow (I have a pair of those - I dont wear them too much). I think it's practice and an attitude that you can do it - you really have to pretend that you are totally confident in your stilletos (DONT LOOK DOWN when you walk) and eventually you will get more confident and you'll be able to identify high risk walking areas . There is nothing worse than a wobbly heal wearer (lol). All I can say is just go for it and wear them out. Also, get the petal pad things (I dont remember their name) they will help your foot stay in place (handy for pointy toed shoes and peep toes - so you dont have that toe overhang) and make the shoes more comfortable.
post #5 of 26
here's the link to the foot petals - I think they all work very well (except the little thin ones for straps - those didnt stay in place for me ).
Foot Petals – Women's High Heel Cushions and Pads that Provide Comfort, Eliminate Sore and Tired Feet and add Style and Beauty to Your Favorite Sexy Shoes
post #6 of 26
i'm short, so I wear heels pretty much anytime I step off campus for anything. I DEF. recommend the foot petals and follow compulsives advice: build up your tolerance. Just buy a pair of ninewest or other midrange heel and wear for a few hours at a time.
post #7 of 26
lol- just like you can build up your tolerance you can lose it. I used to wear heels all the time to try to make myself look taller and stopped wearing heels for the most part in the past couple years. Tonight I wore some high ones to dinner and my feet were hurting. I couldn't wait to get them off!
post #8 of 26
don't worry ... i can't either
post #9 of 26
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Originally Posted by smalls View Post
lol- just like you can build up your tolerance you can lose it. I used to wear heels all the time to try to make myself look taller and stopped wearing heels for the most part in the past couple years. Tonight I wore some high ones to dinner and my feet were hurting. I couldn't wait to get them off!
me too! Used to wear them everyday, but now that I work from home I can't wear them for longer than a few hours before they have to come off.
post #10 of 26
when i first started wearing heels it was difficult as well. i think your feet may just need to adjust after while. does it hurt and where? or could it be just a balancing problem? i suggest wedged heels like xtina mentioned. i always wear wedges when clubbing cause my feet don't hurt and it's way easier to balance. also the petals or dr schools gel insoles work well too. i really don't think inexpensive or expensive heels make an difference though. it's about about the shoe and how it is on your feet.
post #11 of 26
Wearing heels is super easy for me. But that's because i'm 4'10 (at best) and my bf is about 6 feet tall! So I wear a 4 inch heal every day. :P

You could always start with a kitten heal and move up to




post #12 of 26
lol- I'm 4' 10" as well. At least I'm not the only shorty. My boyfriend is 5 '9", but he doesn't mind my shortness .
post #13 of 26
I can't wear heels. I've tried foot petals....even 1/2 inch thick foam inserts (in boots) and that doesn't even help. I honestly think for some people, it might also be the way their feet are shaped. My hurt SOOO much at the ball of my feet by the end of the day I actually start getting cold sweat. I only wear anything over 2 inches going out or for like....a 3 hour work shift (and even then, i'm dying by the end). This applies to wedges, too.
post #14 of 26
i have a super high arch that makes wearing heels soo painful, but i love them so much i do it anyway -- i just have to get foot pads and arch supports. i really think it's about finding a pair/brand that fits your foot well. for instance, most steve maddens/aldos KILL my feet but every pair of nine west and bcbg shoes i own is super comfortable. it's about finding a good fit and, like others said, working your way to tolerance. imo there's nothing that makes me feel more confident than a hot pair of heels (along w/a hot pair of jeans ), despite the fact that i am 5' 11" in heels


....or you could save up 300 bucks and get the cole haan nike air pumps...i really really want a pair of those for my internship this summer, theyre supposed to be so comfy
post #15 of 26
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Originally Posted by hollywoodvixen View Post

You could always start with a kitten heal and move up to





YEs! Kitten Heels!
Love 'em! Very comfortable! and in fashion!
post #16 of 26
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Originally Posted by smalls View Post
lol- I'm 4' 10" as well. At least I'm not the only shorty. My boyfriend is 5 '9", but he doesn't mind my shortness .
Same =P. My parents think it's so cute because I always try to box with him but I look like a crazy woman. I use to kickbox when I was younger so I pretend i'm all tough and he just puts me under his arm, picks me up, and walks away.

post #17 of 26
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Originally Posted by 2venus View Post
You know what's funny? My mom used to wear heels all the time when she was younger. She wore them so much that her feet are now deformed and the bony part juts out. She can no longer wear heels or shoes that are narrow at the toes. She says she can only wear made in Italy shoes and refuses to wear made in China. This is when I accuse of her being a racist. But, I digress..

The only heels that I can wear are like this:

rsvp Peyton (Black) - Knee-High Dress Boots

I wear them clubbing and no pain whatsoever. The only wedges that I can wear MUST have one of those straps across the front so they don't fly off as I'm walking.

When I do try high heels I can't balance, I'm all wobbly, and it also hurts.

You know 3/4 of my last boyfriends/casual buddies have been over 6 feet? I'm a measly 5"1.

I actually bought these knockoff ones from Payless Shoe Source for a pair of Steve Madden sandal heels that I got over eBay. The shoes still killed.

It's too bad because I love Steve Maddens style, but I agree that they're not that comfortable. You'd think their platforms would at least be marginally comfortable - not at all. What does you guys think about Dolce Vita? I am really loving their designs and they're not outrageously high-heeled.

Cork is VERRRRYYYY comfortable. I guess I'm contradicting myself, but I CAN wear heels (well, if you consider 2.25 or so a heel) when they're cork. I've walked hours in a day in cork heels. They're squishy and have that "nike air" affect. haha.
post #18 of 26
hmm...you can't wear heels either? i can't too!
Well, i can but i've learned to have a preference for not wearing them. It's ok to not wear the pointy ones and save your feet. we're just not designed to wear them anyways, it's bad for us
Just wear what makes your comfy. But if they're cute and irresitable, just make that sacrifice hehe.

To those who wear heels everyday, YOU ROCK ON!
post #19 of 26
Thread Starter 
I gotta revive my own thread since I've got a few more questions..

What types of high-heeled shoes are easier to walk in? Should they be closed-toe, open-toe, peep-toe, slingbacks, or maybe slingbacks with an ankle strap? I find that I can do high-heeled boots with no problem, maybe because the entire foot is encased and I have more control over how I walk.. but I'm really not sure.

Thanks ladies, I feel so silly asking these questions being almost 23 and never been able to wear proper heels.

Ideally I want to get a pair like the ones below, but with an ankle strap.. They're not too high so maybe I can manage.

Nine West Georgy (Black/Black Suede) - Sandals

post #20 of 26
Ones that are shaped like these:

Nine West - Product Detail - teralyn

Steve Madden BLAY

Chinese Laundry - Shoes - Jane

They are heeled, but only about 2-2.5 inches so it's not a balancing act.
post #21 of 26
I can't really stiletto heels - I think my foot is too wide cos I'm always getting corns and blisters on the sides of my toes. For some reason I can't wear kitten slingback heels either, they always slip off my feet. Wedges are cute and a lot easier to walk in imo, and are even more comfy when you have those gel pads inside the shoe.

Are Steve Maddens really crap? They're so expensive in Australia I've always assumed them to be better quality than our brands.
post #22 of 26
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Originally Posted by 2venus View Post
I gotta revive my own thread since I've got a few more questions..

What types of high-heeled shoes are easier to walk in? Should they be closed-toe, open-toe, peep-toe, slingbacks, or maybe slingbacks with an ankle strap? I find that I can do high-heeled boots with no problem, maybe because the entire foot is encased and I have more control over how I walk.. but I'm really not sure.

Thanks ladies, I feel so silly asking these questions being almost 23 and never been able to wear proper heels.

Ideally I want to get a pair like the ones below, but with an ankle strap.. They're not too high so maybe I can manage.

Nine West Georgy (Black/Black Suede) - Sandals

I find that slingbacks and ^ those type of shoes are the hardest to walk in. my feet don't feel steady enough in them. i don't like when my heel lifts off the back of the shoe.

I think the easiest are classic pumps where everything is enclosed. Open toe makes no difference to me, it's really just the heel that does.
post #23 of 26
whats wrong when youre walking in heels? do you bend your knees more than when you wear flats? im short so im in heels at least 3.5" almost everyday weather it be a thin heels, thick heels, wedges.. and when i first started wearing heels, i found wedges the easiest to walk in. especially boot wedges since they give more support to my ankle than compared to stilettos or any other ankle straps. and remember to straighten your knees when you walk in heels cuz a lot of girls tend to bend their knees really awackardly when they wear heels that are too high for them.

i remember i found a website all about heels and how to walk in them, but i dont remember at all what the website was or how i ended up there.. but i do remember, it said if you cant walk in heels, start with lower heels after breaking them in and practice in from of the mirror.
post #24 of 26
Thread Starter 
I felt so wobbly in heels and trying them on in the store has always unnerving. Plus, SAs watching you in the store really makes you not want to fall flat on your face. I mean, how embarrassing!!!

Anyways, I went to Payless today and I actually found heels that I could walk in. I figured out the key to walking in heels (I thought of you gals). It's confidence!!!

Here are the shoes that I bought for $19.00 CAD:
Payless ShoeSource

I also got a pair of these for $19.99 CAD:
Payless ShoeSource
post #25 of 26
it's confidence all the way - don't look down and act like you are totally comfortable and you soon will be! Congrats!
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